Hostile or Supportive - where is Compassion?

I am sharing a gentle picture of flowers but my post is a mix of great concern and some chinks of light to say Women's Voices ARE being heard. I am sorry to my readers and followers if there has been a few weeks gap in my posting... I am shocked to see that it is nearly a month since I was discharged home with what has been defined by my GP as right bronchial pneumonia... there is also still some concern on my cardio vascular system and further tests have been ordered... So this last month has been a blur of me trying to heal and rebuild my stamina. I have been on Operation Build Up and get out of Invalid mode!
I have had hassle from the DWP about the work capability assessment form but my GP as written a letter to say I am in no fit state to attend any assessment at this moment of time. 
it really is appalling that folk that are ill are being hassled to find work... and indeed they could perhaps find work if they were allowed to heal and be supported through that healing journey. But the present system is based on harassment and the idea that all are something for nothing scroungers on benefits.  This really does need major reform as the policies are counterproductive when they actually make folk ill with poverty or prevent healing with good support!

I have been eating well with the help of my daughters filling the freezer with food and an activist friend that got me those Wiltshire farm meals... so each day been having 3 good meals a day and my Ensure supplements and the vitamins the doctors ordered.  You know how I had been having crumbling teeth and spontaneous dental fractures... I can now actually feel the strength in my teeth again as calcium and vit D builds again in my system.

Do you remember the neighbour complaining about my garden if you look back in my post you will see the saga? Well in the nice sunny days we had recently I kept doing some target spot weeding and putting in some summer bulbs my daughter had got on wowcher offer site.   I did this not for the complainant but for me to help me with will power to get out of the invalid mode. I had to keep resting as i would have fits of coughing, wheezing, shortness of breath and heart pounding... so had to be measured slow effort.. but it felt good to get my hands in the earth.  I also managed to get some NYR remedies with the help of my activist friends. So was having daily healing showers with flower remedies to help me heal..
BUT, our "Victor Meldrew!" type nextdoor was not seeing all the effort I was putting in not one offer of a cup of tea no no no but came out to challenge me about a young sapling sycamore tree as natural propagation from birds dropping seeds. He has an amazing way of puffing himself up in an animalistic way to challenge you and said "What you doing about this tree it will take light from my garden! "  I told him to back off with his complaints as I had just come out of hospital.. "what complaints he said I have not complained!"..  he whittered on and on and I asked his wife to tell him to stop I had just come out of hospital. I did shout that it is time he learned wisdom in his old age and be kindly neighbour not malicious.

I rang the police as readers I am fed up of being bullied... the officer that came was amazing and so kindly he saw all my campaigning and said we need to team up with you Marjorie as this is necessary.. He saw how women survivors become alone in the community and are at the mercy of neighbours being kind or simply leaving you alone to get on with your life or bully types! We formulated a plan between us to deal with this issue.

My daughter and son in law came and the neighbours where out at the time they helped to finish off the garden tidying and left. the neighbours returned and I was called - "You F***ing Sh*t face Bitch!" wow neighbours that have reached their old age not learning care and compassion for a fellow neighbour just out of hospital... Unbelievable and so utterly sad that society is like this... I did not react just said it is in the hands of the authority now no comment.  I felt strong in the care and concern the police officer had shown me.

But then Monday of this week my daughter came after work to measure up for a higher fence to help me have some privacy and they started on her... I shouted as I was shocked that he reached over the fence and grabbed my daughters arm.. my daughter has had numerous renal surgery over the last year and her arm has had numerous cannulations and venepunctures and he should not touch her anyway... My daughter told me to not shout... and the neighbour said "yes it must be horrible having THAT as a mother!!!"

No respect for me as a fellow neighbour, no respect for me as retired BSc RN RM no respect for me as Marjorie. 

Such bullying by neighbours is NOT acceptable... and I rang the police... he could have been arrested but due to his age we have a plan and it will involve the community team and council...

I have been hidden away in the house feeling so dam hurt that my life has come to this - vulnerable in my old age instead of strong to get a place that is truly mine as sacred space that I can live my remaining months years in with financial dignity and respect and be able to travel abroad to places where I feel at one with all around me. I am exhausted with my recent illness and my situation. 

But in this time I have found some support in fellow survivors who have come to me and checked on me.  I have also had lots of love and sharing from my Syrian refugees online... to help me see I am loved and respected by them.  In this there have been the local council electioneering and I have had my campaign recognised by both local Labour & tory candidates... we have to get a cross party model of care in the borough for women survivors.. and we need to heal the community as there is so much hate and bullying rather than compassion for one another and communities coming together... Society needs healing from all the austerity, poverty, failed ill thought out DWP policies and brexit damage that has been done.. 

A society without compassion ceases to be a society for it is compassion that holds it together.

Turning pain into Campaign!

Reform to help women heal and rebuild.... when will we get this right and fair for women? Sign the petition it is still on the go till I get some debate for reform. Petition for Strong & Stable Pathway of Support for Survivors 
This campaign must continue till achieved it goals no matter what happens to me... I have to get a better pathway of support for women!