Women's Voices to be Heard
Sunday 31 March 2024
1950s born Ombudsman Report
Thursday 25 January 2024
Seventy 2024 milestone
Monday 8 November 2021
Keeping strong & getting voices heard
I am here not updated for awhile as have been mega busy with all sorts of campaigns to get voices heard.. All the zooming & webinars has kept me energised. The climate and health impact a great concern ..
All my health checks were good ...the worry about blanking off and forgetfulness was put down to pandemic lockdown topsy turvy time. Others too had this. But the specialist did think good to perform CT head given my DV history and 20 years of head trauma from two toxic marriages!! We really do need to be mindful of DV survivors needing follow up health checks over lifetime. Memory Check I also had another check up from the ENT specialist at Mount Vernon to exclude throat cancer.
I have shared with you before that I can get choking panic attacks with feeling of being strangled..from the many attempts of strangulation by perpetrators. It can come on when I touch the dark toxic past pain as part of my PTSD.. but I have had also ( as now) a more mechanical anatomical problem of difficulty in swallowing & a lump in my throat. But ENT endoscopy at Out Patients urgent appointment revealed healthy throat, vocal chords. Thank goodness.. the ENT specialist so kind and we viewed the endoscope recording together.. full respect for me being a fellow health professional. He concluded it was sensation and other patients presented with such. That is why he had the endoscope to help immediately assess new referrals. I could have skipped and jumped for joy. I have nursed cancer patients with care & love but never relish being one. Though the kind caring of the specialist would have made me feel in good healing hands if I had to face cancer.
So with health reassured & my lockdown sitdown zooming sciatica healed ..I am zooming literally all over again campaigning. I do take my walking stick folded in my bag if out for a great length of time just in case my legs and arthritic knees ache too much.
NOW the need to review the DWP support of DV survivors needs more campaign to get voices heard. It is not helping with parliament being in disarray.. constitutional rules messed with, code of conduct under question and we still have covid restrictions on public lobbying in the central lobby and attending APPGs & Committee meetings..
Saturday 19 September 2020
Pandemic Zooming Gets voices heard
Saturday 22 February 2020
Council tenancy to review
The older age group brings its arthritic knees for me and the most bizarre changes in the way folk talk to you.. I am fascinated by the question that keeps rearing of can I work a computer! to which I reply it was our generation that invented it.. But I have to admit I did not master Basic or Fortran programming!! Why do people think grey hair and arthritic knees means lost intelligence and personality and fail to appreciate all your life experiences!
So here is the issue I am bringing to the blog today that is bothering me not only for me but for all women DV survivors and for those of us that are in the transition to OAP. It has come to light that I am in a fixed term tenancy not a life long tenancy.
I had thought that as I was in an OAP bungalow I would be here till I pegged it or heaven forbid needed nursing home care! I find this unsettling. I had a visit from a kindly housing officer this week to review my tenancy. We talked outside her role shared our spirituality and was discussing how we need in the London Borough of Hillingdon to review our platform of support for DV survivors and the elderly. We also need to recognise the support 1950s women need as they find a 6 yrs of State Pension taken from them. Some without savings due life circumstances, some been out of earning as caring for older parents. Some eroding savings due to lack of State Pension now when they need it. We need compassion in our politics, we need compassion in our society for without compassion there is no society!
I also was concerned that there was a request to see my bank statements even though I had presented my letter from the DWP Pensions to confirm I am now in receipt of my state pension and the weekly amount I receive. I declined the viewing of my bank statement under Human Rights Act 1998 Article 8 the right to privacy. i felt this was intrusive and invasive given that the council already know my circumstances and that I am now officially an OAP. I was told that I would receive a letter to terminate my fixed term contract for this OAP bungalow and not to get upset as there would be another letter to offer renewed tenancy at my present address or elsewhere. I have chatted with a neighbour who is in her seventies and she is baffled why I am having all this hassle. She has always been a council tenant and when old age struck got her OAP bungalow and is hers is a secure tenancy for her life.
So now I am looking why and what is the criteria for me to be on a fixed tenancy.. I am looking at the Shelter site as today woke feeling unsettled and could cry as... why ...it feels like I am being victimised and this should not be the case I should feel love cared for respected and especially given my DV survivorship history and being a victim. So if you follow the link to Shelter states that for fixed term contract there should be an offer of renewed fixed term or secured tenancy. There are points made on eviction if anti social behaviour or not paying rent or in arrears... Well I do have alleged arrears but as I have pointed out in this blog and to the APPG Poverty arrears occur not from failure to pay but when the system fails to support a person on JSA; ESA;
I have had drops in support that led to me nearly dying with poverty induced pneumonia and another from work capability assessment then the transition from ESA to State Pension! WE NEED TO REVIEW THE DWP as the system is failing citizens in need.. the citizen suffers the effects of said arrears, debts, threats of eviction when it was not their fault but the system malpolicies failing them. I have to get women's voices heard - please learn from my case sharing. My voice is being heard but we still need action to change for the better.
I have been to a conference in Oxford on Compassion in Politics and we seriously need to change the way we govern and care for our citizens not only nationally but globally. Time for Change! and yes #bekind to one another and our communities.
Thursday 2 January 2020
Welcome 2020 and Voices to be Heard
21st century Marjorie standing where Marjory Humes, one of the Suffragettes chained herself to the statue of Viscount Falkland in St Stephens Hall.
I have spent lots of time over the recent years in Parliament lobbying and attending relevant committee meetings to get Women's Voices Heard. My campaign for DWP reforms for DV survivors to gain a strong financial platform of support on the pathway to healing and rebuilding her life. As I am a 1950s born women have joined the voices of those cheated out of their pension funds with the shift in retirement age from 60yrs to 66yrs.... I continue to struggle with the failings of a badly thought out set of policies.... so we must fight on for reform. I have over Christmas been inspired by Gutsy Women a compilation of women over the years that had their voices heard for change. So thanks to Hilliary & Chelsea for producing this book. In among my campaigning I also give support to Syrian refugees as we are all traumatised souls rebuilding our lives so have a special bond. I am also a retired RN RM so cannot ignore the pain in the world to be healed. I can be a voice for them in Parliament too.
The book went with me to the Deans Yard Westminster Abbey just before Christmas - for the "Launch of Social Housing, Affordable Rents & Elimination of Homelessness Bill."
Tuesday 26 November 2019
Judge gives decision in my favour
Crazy Love why women stay TED LECTURE
Red Rose Labour Evening to help get Voices heard!
Then back in Hayes was able to join the Webinar video conferencing with Rebecca Long Bailey - had a great time listening to the many young minds in the conference with some great ideas on the Green Revolution to problem solve Climate Change.....and had ideas and researched reading to share too... all for Wave kinetic energy, Pavegen footfall kinetic energy and been reading up on innovative ideas from India to share.... from edible spoons to using ground up plastics in tarmac for road building.....
Stimulating evening!
Tuesday 30 October 2018
Labour MP's applaud WASPI women protesting Chancellor's speech
Thank you to the Daily Mail and other news reporting sites but sadly this was not mentioned on the TV news channels - just like the 10th October rally there seems to be a government silencing of media to report the injustice and pain of women born in the 1950s denied their pension at 60yrs! I find it deplorable and a disgrace that we have a Government prepared to ignore the social pain that their malpolicies create for society! As people find out about the injustice there is more and more support for the WASPI women. Amazing that the Tory Party are prepared to lose over 3 million votes because of this situation. Thank you to the Labour Party and the SNP for showing your support!
Friday 26 October 2018
My voice continues to be heard but needs action!
The reason I kept static on the postings was that I had submitted the blog as referenced evidence to the Dept of Home Affairs for their Inquiry into Domestic Abuse,
The report is out but sadly my points have not been highlighted.Parliamentary Inquiry into Domestic Abuse There are lots of references in the witness statements to financial abuse but not the overt recognition of the need to support women better on their pathway of healing, detoxing from the ugliness of violence upon her and rebuilding her broken life.
I strongly continue to state that women's lives are being put at risk when she is left penniless, her career ruined and at the mercy of welfare benefits.... There is much attention on the failings of the DWP to support those in need generally on the news as we move towards Universal Credit being rolled out nationally... We hear of those that have weeks without funds and those that have been sanctioned on JSA for failing to turn up to appointments (for women subjected to DV this should be an alert to check on her safety) or simply unable to find any work, those on ESA that have had their GP assessment countered by a work capability assessment deemed fit for work then the darn welfare support suddenly stopped. These failing are DANGEROUS TO WOMEN SURVIVORS - she could return to her perpetrator and the next beating be her murder or she could commit suicide in the post traumatic stress depression. WE SIMPLY CANNOT IGNORE THIS VERY REAL RISK FACTOR... We have to also see that women when they "get out" of the abuse is NOT a case of "she is out of it so safe and over it...." the psychological damage can take years to heal and will always be in flash backs from the trauma. I have shared with you before that when I have had DWP hassle and local council hassle from letters to say my funds have been stopped and demands for payments, when have no funds to pay as led to - twanging me back to the past and its pain. You can lay on the bed depressed and feel every punch... and kick..... and slap again..... and hear all the horrid vile things that have be shouted at you to belittle you and humiliate you.
I, along with other survivors feel when the system fails us it is like that system has become our perpetrator battering us over and over again.
We really need reparation for the criminal act on us by our perpetrators and we need a strong and stable pathway of support to healing... with an overlap of support when we are ready to enter the job market to be sure we can cope. The funding for this from government will not be wasted but paid back in the income tax we will earn from being settled again in some work and regaining our financial dignity..
To care is an investment for the our future well being.
Inadequate support that pushes women into poverty with hunger and no financial dignity is unacceptable and a breech of State Duty of Care to survivors - and this is to UN directives on care of women subjected to violence in war and peace time.
As a society we must review our whole stance at the present attitudes and mal policies of the DWP...... the vulnerable and needy must have and deserve protection with the right to financial dignity.
For me left penniless by my perpetrators I have another issue to contend with and campaign for..... that of my State Pension. I was born in 1954 so fallen foul of the shift in retirement age. I have submitted a complaint about the DWP on the two issues I am facing as I move to my most vulnerable years in old age penniless. My form to the Parliamentary Ombudsman has been given to my MP & Shadow Chancellor John McDonnell to present my case.
Continuing to turn Pain into Campaign.
But in that pain have been referred to the Community Mental health team as I dropped into a form of Seligman's helplessness waking each morning to the same problem no matter how pro active I have been... and continue to be... waking with a choking sensation my throat tightened in a panic attack and coughing and vomiting - a most horrid feeling and a physical manifestation of the way I am feeling - choked with the situation unable to escape from the claws of the past abuse upon me and be free to rebuild my life with dignity.
You can catch up on the campaigning for my State Pension with the #shouldertoshoulder rally on my Cup of tea share care blog... The rally on the 10th October INTERESTINGLY was not covered on the mainstream TV news channels despite the women stopping traffic outside parliament... why is government wanting to MUTE our voices?!?
Saturday 21 July 2018
Breaking Free from the Past pain
Sunday 8 July 2018
Sunday Morning battering by failed system
The service provider does try to help me and over the last couple of years I have actioned all the suggestions and applied for energy grants but have been declined them.. The letters saying we can see you need help but more than a one off help.
I have over this time had sanctioning from JSA for taking a volunteering post with an NGO..... I am on ESA for depression and have, as you know been recovering from poverty vitamin induced pneumonia - unable to fight off the chest infection that was doing its rounds at Easter. I have been having bowel symptoms which required MRI scan to rule out cancer. Thank goodness it is not cancer my surgeon tells me but can only be put down to poverty and inadequate daily diet. He has asked of this blog link to join the campaign as shocked at my plight! YES THIS IS THE UK in 2018!
I have repeatedly requested the energy service provider that supplies my gas and electricity to accompany me to the APPG Poverty for them to put forward a pilot study to help women survivors of domestic violence. To offer a basic unit of usage free and then tarifs above this to be billed.... So women at least are able to keep the basics running and have some heating in winter.
I have had bilateral breast operation in the past with breakdown of wounds and a fistula to the left thoracic region I need to keep the scar tissue warm or I get a dermatome nerve pain on a scale of 0 -10 that is 8 if the scar is cold.
I am a 1954 born women so as you know am a WASPI women unable to get her state pension..... I have repeatedly requested my Gas & Electric service provider to join our collective voices to get the DWP to be urgently reformed and for Theresa May the PM to act by a change in policies on pensions for the 1950s women- to have their compensation of the lost £46,000 from the sudden shift in pension age from 60 to 66 yrs... I am not the only one having horrendous problems being pushed more and more in poverty.
We need companies that provide essential services to shout for us all in Government as it is not fair, I as a customer want to pay my bills but how can I when I have been getting between £38 - £44 a WEEK... I have evidenced my "income" or pittance to the energy supplier yet now I am being subjected to the collection hassle of being rung on a Sunday morning! One gets the impression by the caller that surely I must have a stash of cash under the mattress! But I have repeatedly told the company I have been left penniless with my perpetrator.
I am told I am being too political and they cannot do anything about this - but yes my situation is the result of failed political policies and yes they can do something about it.... they can join the voices to shout for urgent reform of the DWP.
Why can I NOT get over the need for a better financial support for women survivors of domestic violence at any age... and when you think urgent for those with children too.....
But I am also battered by the ridiculously thought out policies of the Cameron government on benefits as if all that use benefits are wasters and MUST find work..I am not a "something for nothing" I have paid in a considerable amount of tax over my years.. near on half a century tax.... with payslips to show not a mathematical illusion as one of the Tory backbenchers stated in the parliament debate 14th December 2017 !
I am trying trying trying to get paid work in among this.... there are jobs that I have been keen to be shortlisted for but it does not happen.... or there are obstacles like a need to go back to uni for a RTP which I must pay for! But I have no funds for....I cannot train as a teacher with the government promotion drive and get £26,000 while training - this is only on offer for younger students not over 60s who must pay for their training... as if we have loads of dosh to pay for this.
I am shocked with the voluntary work I do in a destitute centre - we have poverty on a grand scale in London that makes you feel we have been flung into Dickens time but with electric and all our modern day paraphernalia...
It is so hard to have dialogue with this company now as they see my frustration as me going crazy...! In some ways it is a crazed situation as I am so so frustrated as I would like FINANCIAL DIGNITY that has been robbed of me by violent perpetrators..... It hurts like hell to have come to my most vulnerable years not the woman of substance I could have been and would have been if not fallen victim to violent controller and scammer!
I have been used and abused and now the system batters me...
I have had a panic attack this morning with this call and been retching and nauseous as if choking...... I feel the system as got me by the throat...
Instead of a Strong and Stable platform of support and some reparation for the criminal damage upon my being....
And we need the PM to listen to the 1950s women and let us have the State Pension we have earned with our years to the Queen & Country... many of us worked since 15 yrs like me my first job as an office junior in 1969.
I hope that recent job applications come to an offer... but you can see that in all attempts to try you sort of get kneecapped on the battleground of trying with upsetting calls like today.
A society without compassion ceases to be a society.
The way a society treats the elderly is also a measure of that society... Sadly we are failing the elderly women bitterly!
Shame on the Prime Minister for NOT hearing our voices.